Life, Death, All of It

What if everything we've been taught about grief is wrong?
Freud thought grief was a problem to solve. Then Western culture gave us two days to do it, so many of us learned to move on, perform strong, and grieve quietly — alone.
In this episode, Krista sits down with Carla Fernandez, author of Renegade Grief and co-founder of The Dinner Party, a national nonprofit that brings grieving people together around a dinner table, to talk about what grief actually is, what it does to the body, and what becomes possible when we stop treating it as something to recover from.
Whether you're grieving a person, a relationship, a past, an identity, or a life you once dreamed of, this conversation will give you the language, the tools, and the permission to feel it fully.
🎧 In this episode you'll learn: 
Why grief is not a detour 
What anticipatory grief is and why naming it matters
How to sit with someone else's grief without saying the wrong thing
Why the people around you go quiet after a loss 
What confident grief actually looks like
How The Dinner Party is changing the way we grieve together
Why grief evolves but doesn't end

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do I stop feeling like life is happening to me?” — this episode is for you.In today’s conversation, Krista sits down with executive coach Jonathan Basker of the Conscious Leadership Group to explore what it really means to take 100% responsibility for your life — especially when the temptation to collapse into blame, resentment, or burnout feels irresistible.
Jonathan is known for helping leaders drop the victim mindset and step into grounded, heart-led presence. Before becoming a coach, he led strategy inside high-growth startups like Etsy and Betaworks, learning firsthand that surface-level leadership doesn’t survive real storms. But his insights don’t just come from boardrooms — they come from years of inner work, facing his own patterns, and choosing self-acceptance over self-attack.
Together, Krista and Jonathan unpack:
How to recognize when you’re stuck in victimhood — and shift into self-ownership
Why awareness is the first step to transformation (and why most people skip it)
The subtle ways we self-sabotage when trying to “fix” ourselves
Why acceptance isn’t resignation — it’s the doorway to change
How to break free from repeating the same painful patterns
The role of love and self-compassion in real, lasting leadership
This conversation is for anyone ready to stop outsourcing their power, stop looping in the same old stories, and start leading — in work, in relationships, and in life — from the inside out.
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If you’ve ever wondered how to turn your hardest truths into your greatest power — this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, Krista sits down with brand strategist and truth-teller Kaitlyn Barclay to explore how owning our stories can transform not just our personal lives, but our professional impact. From founding purpose-driven creative agency Scout Lab to courageously sharing her own experiences of survival, Kaitlyn has built a career on the radical power of honesty.
Together, Krista and Kaitlyn unpack:
⟶ How telling the truth—personally and professionally—becomes a catalyst for freedom⟶ The lifelong ripple effects of speaking out against injustice⟶ Why great brands (and great lives) are built on clarity, values, and courage⟶ How to cultivate confidence by claiming your story instead of hiding from it⟶ The science of brand resonance — and how it applies to your personal identity⟶ What it means to be “the hero of your own story” and why that matters more than ever
This episode is a permission slip: to tell the truth, to take up space, and to remember that your story—no matter how uncomfortable—is a source of strength, not shame.
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In today’s conversation, Krista sits down with relational polarity expert Miriam Adler to explore why so many of us lose ourselves in love, chase success at the cost of well-being, and struggle to feel safe inside our own bodies — and how rediscovering inner polarity can change everything.
Miriam has guided thousands through deep relational healing, helping people reclaim their sense of self, understand their emotional patterns, and build healthier, more connected relationships. In this episode, she shares her personal story of hitting rock bottom and the pivotal decision to walk a radically different path — from high-fashion modeling to guiding global healing work.
Together, Krista and Miriam unpack:
⟶ Why heartbreak and rock bottoms can be the greatest doorways to transformation⟶ The misunderstood truth about polarity — and why it’s not about gender or labels⟶ How the “mother wound” and “father wound” unconsciously shape our adult relationships⟶ The root cause of relationship struggles: self-abandonment and lack of responsibility⟶ How mastering inner polarity creates natural confidence, safety, and openness⟶ Why modern culture glorifies burnout and overdrive — and how to reclaim your vitality⟶ The role of polarity in workplaces, leadership, and restoring feminine power
This episode is a reminder that safety isn’t something we outsource — it’s something we cultivate within. It’s an invitation to move from performance to presence, from expectation to authentic connection, and from burnout to grounded confidence.
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If you’ve ever felt like empathy is a liability in today’s world — or questioned whether it still has a place in leadership, activism, or even daily life — this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, Krista sits down with Michael Ventura, author of Applied Empathy and founder of Sub Rosa, to explore how empathy, when practiced rigorously and responsibly, becomes a transformative tool for systems change, leadership, and personal clarity.
Michael has brought empathy training into spaces as varied as West Point, the United Nations, and Fortune 100 boardrooms. But this conversation goes far beyond titles — it’s a deep dive into how we relate to ourselves, each other, and the world around us when we learn to see without projecting and listen without absorbing.
Together, Krista and Michael unpack:
Why empathy is a powerful leadership tool — not a soft skill
How to practice empathy without taking on others’ emotions
The dangers of projection (and how to stop doing it)
Why cognitive empathy is being weaponized — and what to do about it
What it means to find your purpose not in one North Star, but in a personal constellation
This episode is an invitation to reclaim empathy — as a strength, as a responsibility, and as a way of creating more meaningful connection.
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If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your sensuality, unsure how to claim your power, or silenced by shame — this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, Krista sits down with legendary teacher and bestselling author Regena Thomashauer — aka Mama Gena — to explore the radical act of reclaiming pleasure as a source of feminine power. Together, they trace the path from repression to radiance, and how the erotic is not just a personal awakening, but a cultural one.
Regena is the founder of the School of Womanly Arts and the author of Pussy: A Reclamation, a book that’s become a modern-day manifesto for feminine sovereignty. Through her own story — from growing up in a house of violence to teaching at a sex commune to guiding thousands of women back to their bodies — she reveals the revolutionary power of sensual embodiment.
Together, Krista and Regena unpack:
Why owning your pussy means owning your life
How shame is inherited — and how it can be transmuted through pleasure
The cost of 'manning up' and the freedom of reclaiming the feminine
How to awaken the body as a source of truth, guidance, and divinity
Why naming your body is the first step to liberating your voice
This episode is a permission slip — to feel more, to speak louder, to take up space, and to come home to the parts of yourself that were never meant to be hidden. It’s a call to let it rip — and remember that pleasure isn’t indulgent. It’s sacred.
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If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How can my life make a greater impact?” — this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, Krista sits down with Mara Abrams, founder of Numara Impact, to explore the pressure we feel to prove our worth by living a life that leaves an impact and how that pressure often comes not from purpose itself, but from shame.
Mara is no stranger to impact. She’s shaped national policy, supported global youth movements, and advised world leaders on how to center empathy in systems change. But her most profound insights don’t come from her résumé: they come from her personal reckoning with burnout, ego, and what it really means to live a meaningful life.
Together, Krista and Mara unpack:
The hidden link between shame and high-achieving
Why burnout is often a loss of purpose, not just a lack of rest
How to separate your self-worth from your output
The quiet power of listening — to yourself and to others
Why the most radical form of impact might be… tenderness
This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s sprinting toward impact but feels like they haven’t arrived. It’s a reminder that your worth isn’t something you prove. It’s something you remember and practice daily by living from your personal purpose. 
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If you’ve ever felt blocked, unsure your story mattered, or questioned whether creativity was even “for you”—this conversation is for you.
In today’s episode, Krista sits down with Amy Snook, founder of Parea Studios and “book doula” to explore what it really takes to move a creative idea from shame to expression. With a background leading communications at Glossier, SeatGeek, and publishing houses like Melcher Media, Amy has helped thousands of people birth creative work into the world.
Together, they unpack the quiet shame that keeps so many of us from starting, the myth of originality, why creativity often feels like exposure, and how reclaiming your permission to create might be the most radical thing you do.
Through personal stories, publishing wisdom, and deep emotional honesty, this episode is an invitation to make peace with imperfection, reframe failure, and just start.
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If you’ve ever felt like you were too much, too different, or like you just didn’t fit the mold or just wished someone in your life would JUST FIT YOUR MOLD a little more—you are not alone. This episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, Krista sits down with Erin Claire Jones, Human Design expert and author of her new book How Do You Choose?, to explore how understanding the way we’re uniquely wired can help us move through life with more compassion, clarity, and confidence.
You’ll learn how Human Design offers a modern map for self-understanding, why so many of us feel stuck trying to “keep up,” and how difference—when named and embraced—can become your greatest strength.
Through personal stories, relational insight, and grounded wisdom, this episode invites you to drop the shame, trust your own rhythm, and see others with softer eyes.
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If you’ve ever felt like you lost your voice—or couldn’t quite find it to begin with—this episode is for you.In today’s conversation, Krista sits down with award-winning spoken word artist and bestselling author IN-Q to explore what it really means to find your voice and the humble process of getting there.You’ll learn how poetry and the spoken word can be a tool for healing, why most of us struggle to express ourselves creatively, and how the simple act of saying the thing you’re afraid to say can be the key to confidence and connection.Through personal stories, poetic wisdom, and psychological insight, this episode invites you to turn inward, ask better questions, and uncover what you’ve been holding in.⸻For more from this episode, including Krista’s blog post on finding your voice, visit:→ Subscribe to the Life, Death, All of It newsletter on Substack→ Follow on Medium → Watch the full episodes on YouTubeJoin the conversation on: → Instagram: @lifedeathallofit→ TikTok: @allofitpodcast